Becoming You Again
Becoming You Again is the podcast for women who are going through divorce wanting help navigating grief, guilt, and the challenge of rediscovering who they are. Divorce Recovery Coach, Karin Nelson offers compassionate guidance, practical tools, and powerful mindset shifts to help you rebuild self-trust, reconnect with your intuition, and create emotional resilience. Each episode is a safe, supportive space that reminds you: divorce isn’t the end of your story; it’s the doorway to becoming the most authentic, confident version of yourself and creating the best of the rest of your life.
Episodes
284 episodes
Sex and Intimacy After Divorce
Nobody prepares you for the moment after divorce when dating turns into real physical intimacy and your body doesn’t know how to respond. The logistics get plenty of airtime, but the quiet fear of being touched again, not knowing what you like,...
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Are You Ready To Date After Divorce
Everyone has a timeline for when a woman should date after divorce and it somehow manages to be both too long and not long enough. I’m done with the rules, because the truth is other people don’t live in your body, they don’t know your history,...
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Nervous System Grounding After Divorce
Your mind might be ready to move on, but your body may still feel like it’s on high alert. We’re slowing down and doing something practical: a guided nervous system grounding exercise you can use anywhere, especially when divorce stress, co-par...
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Calm Co-Parenting With A High-Conflict Ex
In the last episode in The Ex-Files series I'm talking about what changes when you are co-parenting with a high-conflict ex where “communicate openly” and “be flexible” aren’t just unhelpful, they can actually set you up for more chaos. The goa...
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Emotional Detachment After Divorce 2.0
Your ex doesn’t have to change for you to feel steady again. If a late pickup, a snippy text, or a comment in front of the kids emotionally hijacks your entire day, it can feel like he still has a remote control to your emotional life even year...
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Healing After Betrayal: When Trust Was Broken
Betrayal during a marriage can make you question your own mind, your memories, and your ability to trust what’s right in front of you. If infidelity, lying, hiding, or a double life showed up in your marriage this episode can be your next step ...
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The Ex-Files Ep 1: When Your Ex Moves On
Your ex starts dating again and you're surprised by your reaction of finding yourself crying in the car, obsessing at night, or feeling that tight, panicky drop in your stomach. It can be so confusing especially when YOU DON'T EVEN WANT HIM BAC...
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Why You Didn't Leave Sooner Makes Sense
“Why didn’t I leave sooner?” can feel like a realistic question but the most real thing about it is how full of shame and self judgement that question is. We turn hindsight into a weapon and put the past version of us on trial. I want to slow t...
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Be Audacious After Divorce
“I just don’t want to be miserable anymore” sounds reasonable after divorce, but it can also trap you in a life where you never really stretch yourself or create something really incredible after divorce. So in this episode I'm talking about au...
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Rebuilding Safety And Self Worth After Divorce
If you’ve ever caught yourself checking someone’s face, tone, or mood to decide whether you’re “okay,” you’re not overreacting and you’re not broken. In this episode I talk about the pattern behind that reflex and why it feels so intense during...
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A Quick Somatic Tool For Divorce Stress
Your body isn’t “being dramatic” after divorce, it’s doing its best to protect you. When your nervous system gets stuck in fight-or-flight or shutdown, you can feel tense, numb, hyper-alert, or exhausted. I'll walk you through a simple somatic ...
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Perfectionist Fantasies After Divorce And How To Break Them
Perfectionist fantasies of what tomorrow will bring during divorce can feel useful - like we're moving toward something. Your brain whispers, “Once the decree is signed, once the schedule is set, once the kids adjust, once I heal, then I’ll fin...
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From Body Judgment to Body Neutrality: A Path Back to Yourself
There's a moment after divorce when you realize at some point, someone new might see you naked can hit like a wave after divorce. If your first thought is I need to change my body before I’m allowed to date, be touched, or feel confident in mys...
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Four Lies That Keep Divorced Women Stuck
Your brain can turn divorce into a courtroom where every thought sounds like evidence and every feeling becomes a verdict. We’re slowing that whole process down and letting you know what’s really going on: cognitive distortions, or in other wor...
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Finding Yourself After Self-Abandonment
That moment when you finally get quiet and realize you don’t know what you want anymore can feel terrifying and weirdly ordinary at the same time. Today I’m going to shine a light on what’s happening for so many women in unhappy marriages and i...
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Escaping The Comparison Trap
Comparison after divorce can feel like a punch to the gut. One run-in with your ex, one hard kid drop-off, or one “perfect life” scroll on Instagram and suddenly your mind is building a case that you’re behind, broken, or failing. I’m Karin Nel...
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Rebuilding Self-Trust After Divorce
Divorce can turn even simple choices into second-guessing spirals. If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why can’t I trust my own judgment anymore?”, we’re going straight to the root: self-trust is the foundation for everything you do in your life m...
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Grounding In Under Two Minutes
Your mind may be ready to “move on” after divorce, but your body might still be living in survival mode. When divorce shakes your sense of stability, even ordinary moments can trigger a surge of stress that feels bigger than the situation. In t...
Stop Carrying Everyone's Feelings After Divorce
You can’t heal when you’re carrying emotions that were never yours to hold. If you’ve been trying to keep your ex calm, your kids happy, your mom reassured, your coworkers comfortable, and everyone else okay, this conversation is the the wake u...
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Divorce Shame
Your divorce isn’t proof that you’re broken, but society loves to whisper that it is. I’m Karin Nelson, a certified divorce coach, and I’m pulling apart the old story that ties women’s worth to marriage so you can finally see it for what it is:...
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Caught in the Spiral: How to Interrupt the Lies Your Brain Tells You During Divorce
Your divorce can be messy on the outside but the most exhausting battles often happen inside your own head. When a thought like “I’m not good enough” lands, it doesn’t just feel bad, it can hijack your body, your confidence, and your ability to...
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Your Values Are Your Roadmap After Divorce
Divorce can make even simple choices feel impossible because you’re not just changing your schedule, you’re rebuilding your identity. When you’re flooded with decisions about where to live, how to co-parent, what work looks like now, and who yo...
How To Tell Your Children You’re Getting A Divorce With Calm And Clarity
Your kids don’t need a perfect script. They need you regulated, clear, and willing to hold space for whatever they might feel without making them responsible for yours. I’ll walk you through telling your children you’re getting a divorce, and d...
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Stop Beating Yourself Up And Start Healing
If the voice in your head gets cruel after divorce, it can feel like you’ll never be “okay” again, even when you’re doing everything you can to hold life together. I’m digging into the one skill that changes the entire healing process: self-com...
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Thirty-Second Grounding Techniques
Your body can go from pretty calm to dysregulated in seconds during divorce, and it is not a sign you are failing. When a text from your ex lands, when mediation gets tense, or when you feel that familiar wave of panic, shutdown, anger, or grie...
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